Last week I ran into a couple of friends in Ghent and some wonderful synchronisity occurred. We ended up talking about our businesses and the FEARS we’re often overwhelmed by when thinking about our projects.
I mentioned I didn’t sleep very well as I felt restless and faced some fears. One friend reacted, “YOU? FEARS?”, she couldn’t believe I’m facing them as well.
I recently read the book from “Yogagirl”, Ratchel Bratchen and yes, she writes a chapter on fears as well! She says she used to be afraid of teaching big classes, speaking in front of groups. This was very recognizable to me.
I guess we all have our fears, our demons to face, especially when we do new things or attempt moving beyond our comfort zone. We all have this voice inside of us, an inner critic that wants to convince us we’re not good enough. This is a voice in our heads, but how real is this voice and what do we do with it? It’s only as real as you allow it to be! If you repeat that you are not good enough a thousand times, you will actually start to believe it and your behaviour will result in acting smaller than you truly are.
So what matters is how much you feed this fearful voice. Can you shift your perspective and think about love instead of fear? Can you change your point of view and look at what you have realised already? Can you see and appreciate your own qualities? Because we all have our unique values! We’re surely all different from one another, but that makes up the beauty of being human.
I practise looking inside of myself, seeing my own qualities and use these to serve the world around me. I look in my heart and try to listen to my inner voice and be true to myself. I realise that when I do this, I feel more comfortable and I attract more like-minded people in my yoga classes and life.
I realise that fears will always be there but it is up to me to shift my perspective and not feed these distresses! I also see fears as wonderful chances to grow. Whatever makes me fearful offers me an opportunity to develop myself and move beyond. E.g. I am afraid of heights and I went cliff jumping and parapenting in the French Alps. I was terrified of speaking in front of groups, but I overcame my demons and did it anyway! Teaching yoga has helped me a lot in this and now I, slowly, start feeling more comfortable where I used to be least at ease. I was very nervous about recording my yoga classes, but empowered myself and started publishing some work on the portal website of “Yoga with Evy Gruyaert”. Only three years ago, I was incredibly afraid to travel by myself, but I went on a solo trip around the world and discovered my deep love for travel.
Whatever freightens you, challenges you at the same time. It’s a chance to just get out there and “go for it”, become a stronger, more open version of yourself!
If I would have allowed myself to be restricted by my fears, my life would have been completely different! I would not have the same life I have now. I would not feel as free.
The beautiful synchronicity that took place when meeting my friends brought some relief, to all of us that day. We saw we’re not the only ones feeling fearful at times. We all have fears, even the world known teacher Ratchen Bratchen writes about it!
Know that you’re not alone on your path, that fear is a great teacher. Surround yourself with people that support you instead of hold you back. Know that fears are not real and they only exist inside of your head. Turn your demons into love, faith, trust, self worth. Be okay with who you are right now and know you already have everything inside of you to shine your light.